“Stay away from what might have been and look at what will be.” -Marsha Petrie Sue
It's hard sometimes to move on away from regret and guilt, but what else can we do? We either sit and wallow in what might have been, or try and learn from our experiences and mistakes, and move forward. In my opinion it's easier to move forward if you've not hurt anyone else with your mistakes, especially if those are close and loved ones.
I've not learnt how to do that yet, but for others who have made mistakes that have only effected themselves then this piece from Tiny Buddha might show a way forward.
The extract from it below is a little bit like Scientology teachings, they more or less say get everyone out of your life who has or is causing you any problems. I guess this is a little less extreme, you can distance yourself, but still remain on speaking terms but on 'your' terms, and not theirs.
Think of this as your It’s a Wonderful Life moment.
You’re down on your luck and vulnerable. You have to do some major life restructuring to rebound from whatever you just experienced. Are your friends there for you, offering forgiveness and support—even if it takes them a little time to get there? If not, this may be a perfect time to remove unhealthy relationships from your life.
From Tiny Buddha.